Personal Development
This is my story about overcoming the hardest time in my life and is why I am passionate about personal development and implementing positive coping mechanisms to deal with life stressors.
I feel like I have always dealt with life stressors in a negative way. It was when I was working as an Emergency Medical Technician when I took the negative habits to a new level. I started drinking alcohol daily, partying all the time, smoking cigarettes and marijuana, and eating everything in sight.
I found myself:
- depressed
- anxious
- withdrawn
- shut down
- agitated
- not able to concentrate to make even the easiest decisions
- making poor life choices both personally and financially
- emotionally exhausted
- not able to sleep even though I was tired all the time
- with no compassion for others
- with no passion for my career that I worked so hard to achieve
- surrounded by so many people and feeling alone
- soulless
- numb
- with no self-confidence
- gaining 30 pounds
- acting out of character where I let my family and friends down
- not living within my values
- not able to function at home or at work
The more I carried on like this the worse the feelings got and for many years I did not know how bad things in my life were. It took getting assaulted at work for me to realize that I was in a dark place and needed professional help. This was not an easy observation for me. It took a lot of soul searching and the will to fight for a better life to be able to move forward with my personal development journey.
I started to:
- read
- listen to positive/educational audios
- journal
- meditate
- go to the gym
- go to business and leadership conferences
- take an eating program to where I lost those 30 pounds
- surround myself with the people that love me for support and a reminder of who I am and how strong I am
This was and is not an easy task or a quick fix. It is working everyday to improve the person I was yesterday. I will never say I am perfect and yes; I do have bad days or weeks or even months however, I now am able to recognize the negative feelings and signs and immediately take action to improve myself. I choose to keep moving forward and striving to be the best I can be.
These are just some of the positive coping mechanisms I implemented in to my lifestyle. I am able to keep my mind focused and grounded to where I can control my thoughts and actions in a calm and passionate manner. They have helped me get out of my funk and take control of my life where I can see improvements: mentally, emotionally, physically, professionally and financially.
If I can do it, you can!